My Musings

Good evening dear ones,

I could come up with a tub-full of half baked reasons why I have not so much as typed a "full stop" here in 5 long months but they would be just that - half baked. 

Now that we have exchanged pleasantries, here's what is on my mind today and has been for a while. How is it that we, (Nigerians) have formed the habit of making jokes of the most horrid and unpleasant situations? I mean, are we so shallow and dense that we feel nothing or what we feel does not stay with us for long or do we just totally lack understanding?

Let's take a look at this year. First, it was the removal of fuel subsidy by our very own GEJ (side eye) and all sorts of pictures and joke lines went viral on all social media over the very cruicial matter, taking away from the seriousness of the situation. Then came more Boko Haram brutality and ofcourse, we went on to make fun of it even as fellow human beings were gasping their last breaths while others prayed for mercy. Then came the Mubi mass murder. and now, the very gruesome and open murder of the four UNIPORT students by the Aluu community. 

I had seen some jokes already but this one was the most asinine of them all and really got me "NYSC official: You have been posted to ALUU for your service. AKPORS: O O Abeg Sir, space still dey North?".. HOW DOES ANY SANE PERSON FIND IT IN HIS/HER SICK, DERANGED AND SUBSTANDARD MIND TO FIND ANYTHING REMOTELY FUNNY ABOUT THESE MURDERS??? As if that were not enough, a number of people are tweeting and facebooking more tasteless jokes. How then do we expect people to take us seriously when we do not even take ourselves seriously? How do we demand rights when we are first in line to strip ourselves of the very right to demand rights?I understand that people have their differnt ways of coping with pressure and maintaining sanity but a bit of sensitivity always helps. 


IF YOU HAVE NOTHING CONSTRUCTIVE TO SAY,  KEEP YOUR FOUL MOUTHS SHUT! We must not always have something to say. Even the Bible says "Better to be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt". There's a huge difference between being strong and resillient and being plain stupid.

Koko.

Now here's a short story.

A single and not unattractive young woman works for an organisation. A few months after joining the organisation, she meets a male colleage, a superior. Sparks fly, they decide to date and as many relationships go,irrespective of the environment,it ended not so long afteer. The young woman in question, has been labelled all sorts in the orgasnisation simply because she dated a co-worker. Now she's said to be loose and spoilt and what not.

I have heard these things happen. Indeed, many people have found partners in their places of work. Some have led to marriage and others have not, again, as is the case with any relationship.

Here's what gets me. Why does the woman get to bear all sorts of silly side talk and the man, no one notices him. How does one conclude that a woman is bad because she dated a co-worker, especially when the said relationship does not end in marriage? In reality, dating someone you have to see at home and at work, with other people looking on and waiting for the "outcome" (since they do not have lives of their own), can take its toll on a relationship.Not many people are able to handle this pressure. Bearing that in mind, is it wrong to date a colleage? Do you decide to not try with someone who you think may be good for you solely because you work together?

"Husbands are scarce" ," I can't find a woman to marry". I hear statements along these lines all the time and yet, weekend after weekend, the roads are flooded with "about to wed" cars, or I'm attending a friend's wedding, buying one gold and burgundy aso-ebi or a blue one. Why then do we keep saying  "no husband, no wife for market" ? Who then are the people getting married to? Or dare I say "what then"?