This here is a delicate subject and may sound offensive depending on your perspective of issues like this. Seeing as it is becoming quite common (sadly), it may as well be discussed. Please note that I, Koko, am neither for nor against. This is not a personal opinion.
Ok here it is…
There are a lot of women who for personal reasons, religious, cultural …decide to wait for marriage before doing the deed and after the wedding, realize that their partners have no desire to consummate the marriage seeing as they prefer men or they do have the desire but they just cannot because the parts needed do not quite function as they should. Usually, the lady is distraught! Confused! Disappointed! The man…well, it is logical to assume that a man with such problems would know he has them even before the wedding so this would not be coming as news to him, which would mean he kept his “news” a secret from the soon to be Mrs. Distraught.
Now here’s what I and any number of other people probably are thinking too…
Is it right to try out a prospective partner’s sexual functionality before marriage or wait and hope for the best, which may turn out to be the worst? Indeed, is it a function of right and wrong? 
If a woman marries a man who she finds out won’t consummate the marriage because he prefers people of the same sex as he is, or he has a health or emotional issue and cannot, what would be the reasonable next step for the woman to take-Divorce? Would that not be going against the very beliefs that kept her from trying out her partner before entering a would be lifelong bond with him?
Some people have come up with the argument that there’s more to a marriage than sex and thus it could be forfeited. Indeed, there is a whole lot more to it but it is safe to say that it was put in the equation as a constant, not a variable for a very valid reason, yes?
From articles on the web and in magazines to real life stories, it would seem that there is an increasing number of women who have been and are getting caught in this web and are at a loss as to what or how to fix it (if it were at all fixable), meaning there are more men who have these issues! Or have they always been there and women are only just getting up the nerve to speak up about it?
What’s your take on this oh, so sour pudding women are getting served in larger and larger pieces these days?
Koko.
2 comments:
Firstly, anyone who says sex should be forfieted in a marriage is a joke, one of the main reasons for marriage is sex (look into one of Paul's letters to the Corinthians).
Secondly, if we just want to tackle this issue biblically, I will say do not do the deed before marriage, but what do we say for the selfish and dishonest man who says he is not doing the deed until marriage just so he can keep the problem away and "traps" the woman in marriage, has he not gone against the same bible. On the other hand when the woman finds out must she now remain in the bondage because she will not want to go against the bible?
Okay, now my personal opinion is; i will check out of the marriage, the term will be to annul/dissolve the marriage (i.e.) it never happened.
Lol@ check out! It's such a tricky thing yet black and white!
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