"Husbands are scarce" ," I can't find a woman to marry". I hear statements along these lines all the time and yet, weekend after weekend, the roads are flooded with "about to wed" cars, or I'm attending a friend's wedding, buying one gold and burgundy aso-ebi or a blue one. Why then do we keep saying "no husband, no wife for market" ? Who then are the people getting married to? Or dare I say "what then"?
The really interesting thing is most of the weddings I have seen in recent times have been of relatively young people, with the females usually between the ages 22- 25 and the men a couple of years older. Now, this has me wondering- what is the ideal age for a woman/man to get married? What qualifies her/him as being ready? Are we to believe there is no minimum age for marriage in these modern times? Are the people who get married early ready for the "marriage" and not just the fancy wedding ceremony which really is just that- a ceremony? Aside from social pressure (which technically, should not be an issue for a 22 year old female or any female at that) and the only too frequently used word "love", what motivates people to enter into marriage especially at an early age? Bearing in mind the rising rate of divorce , what keeps the ones who remain married together? A lack of a better option?
This is a rather inconclusive piece. I know not the answers to these questions. Help me!
7 comments:
Quiet insightful my lady; as always! I think for that age group, Marriage seem to be the easy way out for some. Also, in our society, Pressure comes from different angles and has always been the factors behind ladies getting married at younger ages year after year. Emulating the western culture or lack there of is also a fact, people as young as 16 get married in varies countries around the world regardless of the divorce rate and if there is something we know about our dear country; we no dey carry last o. America is turning out to experience marriage as minority with the rates at 51% married and 49% divorced and its increasing year after year......sad ish
You know, a few minutes after I put up this post, a colleague marched up to my desk with her aso ebi for her wedding in the first week of march. What can I say.
yo know i was going through your blog and i had this grin on my face...you have a different way of expressing your views and i love it. about marrying early or late...all that matters is doing it once and doing it right. doing it for the right reasons at the right time and with the right person.. i love the post about the girl in tiny clothes...haha
www.misslarawrites.blogspot.com
Miss Lara has said it all...lots of people getting married for the wrong reasons these days. Oh well!
koko dear, marriage in itself is beautiful.... so beautiful dat if we can , den we should. unfortunately, its for a select few. few who know and hold the vow sacred. I remember reading a post dat says: HONESTY IS EXPENSIVE, DON'T EXPECT IT FROM CHEAP PEOPLE. same thing as marriage, people don't even try these days, dey feel its a dress u buy, and wen u r tired of it u get rid of it..... like Lara said, all it needs is the right ingredient. dere really is no age definition for marriage, it should just be 2 people coming together for all the right reasons and not all about just LOVE.... love alone is strong but it needs d support of oda things - friendship, honesty, openness, respect and many more..... wat makes me wonder is the fact dat people get married dese days with "divorce" as an option if all else fails........ trust me, wen dere is an option, den we might as well not try our best......
Thank you Misslara. I'm glad you like it.
Ahh....interesting views you all have. All ringing true.
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